8 positive things to say when you feel like a failure.
These are simple phrases but I find that they are quite effective. This week I have been making a concerted effort to recognise when my perfectionist/anxious thinking rears up, stop and either take a few breaths or tell myself one of these positive phrases. So far it’s going pretty good. I only spent 2 hours on making the graphic for this post rather than the 5 hours I spent in the last post (which seems kind of pathetic considering its simplicity! Oh well, progress! Its better to get things done rather than procrastinating about them because it needs to be perfect.)
I had another chance this week to practice using positive words at dance, which I go to every Wednesday night. This week I moved up a level into a more advanced class. Already I was intimidated about the fact the other girls are amazing dancers, are slimmer than me and have pretty hair but I was also anxious about learning harder routines. I just knew that I was going to stuff up during class and that made me anxious (because, perfectionist) and sure enough, I mucked up the steps about 15 minutes in.
Normally when this happens I’d spend the rest of class berating myself, thus not focusing and missing out on learning the rest of the routine anyway. BUT this time I told myself that it’s okay I messed up, that I was trying my best and that I shouldn’t expect so much of myself straightaway.
I still felt anxious about what people thought when I did the steps wrong and annoyed that I wasn’t picking up the routine as quickly as I wanted. Telling myself it was fine though helped me enough to keep concentrating for the rest of the lesson.
Using this approach or these phrases may not necessarily work for everyone but I sincerely hope that some of you give them a try! Let me know if you do and how you go in the comments section below 🙂